ROLE OF A MAN No two people agree on everything & that’s fine but its important to be okay with each others differences. Sometimes the cost of gift is less important than the thought behind it. surprise your spouse with a small gesture. Research consistently shows that touching more creates a stronger bond by releasing Oxycontin, try to lengthen it for 5 to 10 second daily. For a satisfying marriage make sure you are accountable for the part you play in relationship (good or bad). Don’t ignore problems, boredom in bedroom & lack of conversations. Treat them as you treat chronic illness & take all possible measures to make your marriage stronger.
Change your focus to one of learning to appreciate your partner. Let go of criticism & blame. Setting aside a romantic evening on a regular basis can rekindle the magic of a long term relationship, just to remember how & why you just fell in love. In today’s hectic schedules, its easy to find marriage at bottom of your priority list. Take a walk, hold hands, look together, exercise together, collect a daily joke, make a effort to laugh together as often as possible. It can sweeten your connection & cement your relationship for life. Compliment your spouse everyday as it is a sign of acknowledgement & appreciation.
Never lie to each other. Lies break trust & trust is the foundation of strong marriage. When you try to change your spouse you are sending the message that who you are is not enough, let your spouse be who she is and focus changing yourself. ROLE OF A WOMEN If your goal is to have satisfying relationship with longetivity, make sure you are accountable for the part you play in relationship (good or bad). Men don’t need to solve or fix everything, listening itself is an exceptional gift. For women its important to understand that men need time for themselves, by giving space you allow him to reconnect with his desires for you or commitment to the relationship. When you try to change your spouse you are sending the message that who you are is not enough, let your spouse be who he is and focus changing yourself.
When you argue communicate how you feel, its not your partner’s job to read your mind, guess what you are thinking or put words into your mouth. These are huge obstacles to open, honest communication, anger & frustration in the relationship. When other things become more important such as career, children and personal ambitions, trouble sets in. Make the relationship your top priority and see your relationship flourishing. Focus on how you can be a blessing to your spouse & in turn you will be blessed & so will your marriage. Start a sentence with I rather than word you and then share your feelings. As genuine feelings are sad and happy, frustrated etc, sharing your core feelings create better communication, more connection & compassion. Start taking care of yourself &start working on you, your marriage in turn will stay fresh & vital. Promise to take care of yourself so you will continue to age with grace & confidence by your partners side. Never lie to each other. Lies break trust & trust is the foundation of strong marriage.